Long Distancing it Up

                There’s this guy you know, he’s cute and funny(and brilliant, nerdy, sweet, sexy, creative, and everything you ever wanted). You wonder why you’ve never noticed him before. You get to talking, you become friends, and you even find yourself going out of your way just to hear his thoughts about nothing. Obviously, there’s a connection, so you decide to date. Did I mention said guy is more than 2,000 miles away? There are some pretty great upsides to long distance dating. You know it’s not an infatuation based on lust because all you do is talk and really get to know the person. This is all fine and dandy, but what about physical contact? Can you really trust your partner?

                Let’s get started with the talking. All you do is talk. Technology is lovely and there are so many ways to get a hold of each other. Skype for a more intimate connection, Facebook for random thoughts that you’d really tell anyone, texting to make your day go better, and, of course, phone calls. Your emotional bond is fantastic. Your fights seem to resolve themselves(I mean, what are you going to do, not talk it out?). Every new thing you learn about them is wonderful. Even when it isn’t, you’re happy you know more about them. At the end of the day, that’s all it is though. Talk. Eventually, you may run out of things to say. Awkward silence, repetitive “So, whatcha doin’ now?” kind of banter. All this technology to help you keep in contact does exactly that. You don’t have time to go off and do something exciting without them knowing beforehand. No more surprises.

                Let’s move on to sex. As much fun as it is to sneak off and send out risqué photos of yourself in the middle of a party, it doesn’t beat out having a real living person right there with you. You may even toy around with phone-sex, sexting, cybersex, or whatever gets your rocks off. It’s still a very lonely existence. When you finally do see each other the passion is overwhelming. Until then, it’s hardly bearable.

                Monogamy is always a question in the back of your mind. Are they being faithful to you? This either puts a strain on your relationship or strengthens your trust. This is assuming you’ve talked it over and decided to be monogamous. Every time they hang out with their friends you secretly wonder if that’s actually what they’re doing. Of course, that’s probably a ridiculous thought. But what if it isn’t? It’s enough to drive you batty.

                If you really believe this person could be the figurative “one” you should give it a shot. They’re obviously committed to you, otherwise why would this even be an option? They obviously think you’re more amazing than anyone else less distantly challenging. Chances are you love each other. Chances are this is going to work. Now go tell them so!